Becoming.
When I think back to how different life was, how different I was, before the Becoming Her program, it seems almost unthinkable that I could have made such quantum leaps in such a short amount of time. I’ve known Ciara, the Goddess behind Becoming Her, for years, yet I truly believe the Universe bringing her back into my life when she did was some type of divine intervention. I knew in my heart Ciara could and would help me make sense of the mess I was feeling inside. I never anticipated, however, the breakdown, the breaking through, and the true awakening that I would experience as a result of her program. For the first time in my life I have an appreciation for everything I have been through, the journey that led me here - exactly where I am meant to be, and WHO I am meant to be. Owning my power and my purpose, I wake each morning with an understanding that life is happening FOR me, and even FROM me, not TO me… a far cry (pun intended) from the girl who used to sit and cry in her car before she walked into work.
So why did I take the plunge and hire a “life coach” / join Becoming Her to begin with? I was stuck. And sad. And even though I had found so much joy in starting a new phase of life, and such freedom in quitting my job, I still had no idea how to successfully adjust to this new season as a “full-time mom”, let alone figure out what I now wanted to “do” with my life. And that, I’ve learned, was probably my biggest problem - we are all so programmed to focus on the ‘do-ing’ in life : the career, the home, the cooking and cleaning, the laundry, the to-do lists, the workouts, the happy hours, the professional development, the committees, the daycare drop-offs and PTA meetings, the side hustles… do, do, do, do. My life was engrossed by what I was do-ing, or felt I should be doing, and I had absolutely no idea how to just BE. And honestly, I had had enough. I knew there was more to life, and I wanted more (addition by subtraction) desperately. So I talked with Ciara, and with Paul, and decided this was the route I wanted to take. And as the conditioned/type-A individual that I was, I wrote down what I planned to get out of Ciara’s course:
I wanted to develop some everyday tools that could help support me in my process to wean off post-partum depression medication
I wanted help discovering my true purpose in life
I wanted to set myself, and my family, on a path that created more peace, calm, and happiness in our lives
To immediately cut to the chase, I accomplished everything on my “to-do” list during the Becoming Her program. I dove in head-first with 4 other women I’d never met. As we dug deeper each week, learning as much from each other as we did from course content (the true beauty, in my opinion, of this program’s structure), I learned how to throw my “to-do” lists away. Every single one. And once I threw away the concept (both literally and figuratively) of “do-ing”, which had pretty much ran my life up until this point, I truly became free to just “Be” and to Become. To accomplish my goals with grace, on my own timeline. In just 8 weeks I gained even more than I ever could have imagined:
I shifted my outlook on exercise, body image, and how I move each day
I tapped into my core Values and Virtues, which help guide me, even on my worst days
I no longer feel the need to “sleep the day away”; sleeping in for me is usually 6:30am and I’m routinely up between 5-5:30
I rediscovered my love of and connection with horses, and started riding again
I completely shifted my relationship with food, and as a much more educated consumer, am healthier than I probably ever have been
I quit alcohol and caffeine almost exclusively (goodbye anxiety and shitty sleep, I truly didn’t realize how much alcohol and coffee I was consuming until i stopped. I blamed the pandemic, but let’s call it what it was - numbing)
I successfully stopped taking ALL medication (anti-depressants, birth control)
I adjusted my relationship with money, finances, and spending habits
I successfully transitioned my Beautycounter business from side-hustle to the income that could pay our mortgage on a regular basis
I found the courage and conviction to ask for help when I need it, without guilt
I reconnected with my love of reading, which I now recognize as my ultimate form of self-care
I started the outline for a novel✨
I opened myself up to expanding my tribe of women, and have made lifelong friends at the age of 35. Women who have helped show me that I am strong and brave, and not alone in my struggles or my triumphs
I created a beautiful, designated space in our home that is just for me (moving my desk out of our bedroom and rearranging our closet also helped me successfully purge unnecessary items, and I began to work on a true capsule wardrobe)
I reconnected with my husband on an emotional and spiritual level, taking our relationship to a place it’s never been
I begin each day with a thankful heart, a prayer, and a guided meditation that all help set the tone for my mornings - before the kids get up
I forgave those who have done me wrong, and worked to forgive myself (Ho’oponopono prayer on repeat)
I am a calmer, more present presence for my children
I genuinely had no idea how disconnected I was from my own body, my own heart and desires; my soul. And in talking with friends, colleagues, acquaintances, other moms and wives, I know I am not alone. We were not put on this earth to merely survive. I know I wasn’t. Pandemic or not - I’m here to thrive. To create, to love, to inspire. I’ve said goodbye to anxiety, depression, and so much anger; I am no longer a victim. Instead, I am a walking embodiment of what this program can do for women : confident, happy, and living a purpose-driven life. I am a better mother, wife, friend, daughter, businesswoman and overall person than I was just a few weeks ago. I no longer allow fear or pain or the “shoulds” to direct my life, and instead choose to live each day with joy and fulfillment - even the hard ones. And boy have there been some hard ones recently.
This leads me to the most important lesson I learned through my work in Becoming Her - my worth. I Am Worthy. I am worthy of all of life’s abundance. I am worthy of a life of Be-ing vs a life of do-ing. I am capable of creating a life I love, and strong enough to approach every day (the good, the bad, the ugly, and the beautiful) with neutrality and grace. And you are, too. Believe me.
If you desire to experience results similar to those I mentioned above, I strongly encourage you to take the first step and schedule a call with Ciara. It is free, with zero obligations. The Becoming Her medicine is powerful, and I fully believe you will begin to see results after just one hour of your time. Who are you ready to become? You are worthy of it all.